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What Vulnerability REALLY Means
Vulnerability has been linked almost exclusively to the expression of feelings. Most couples who grace my office tell me that they want the other, usually the male partner, to be “more...
View ArticleLittle Things Make BIG Differences
Turns out that it’s the little things that make the biggest differences in the day to day routine with our partners/spouses that leave a couple feeling closer to, and safer with, each other. Try the...
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Re-Building Trust
How To Re-Build Trust As you can see by the title, the word “re-build” implies that the trust between the two of may have been damaged. The damage may range from minimal to substantial. The range...
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Avoid Fighting–The Recipe
It never hurts to revisit an old topic, one that applies to every one of us: I am referring to effective conflict management. Three or four times a week I have a couple in my office and one of them...
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What REALLY Changes A Relationship?
It is often said that successful people do the things that unsuccessful people either don’t want to do, can’t do, or won’t do. I have found in all my years of doing counseling with couples, that the...
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Reconnecting At The End Of The Day
At the beginning of a relationship it is easy for two people to connect with one another. We loved coming home at the end of the day and being asked: “How was your day?” All the kisses, the hugs, the...
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Futile Fighting Kills Marriage
FUTILE FIGHTING Here are two marital anthems sung about conflict by many couples: 1. “We fight about everything!” 2. “We fight about the same thing or things over, and over again. And the...
View ArticleReducing Repetitive Fighting
The Secrets To Reducing Repetitive Fighting In my last post I talked about the futility of repetitive fighting, and explained that repetitive fights often occur because we try to negotiate what cannot...
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Negotiate Effectively
Conflict and Negotiation In my last post about reducing repetitive fighting, I outlined what can and cannot be negotiated. Feelings, values and attitudes cannot be negotiated. Behaviors can be...
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From Babies To Brats: The Impact Of Devices
From Babies to Brats: The Impact of Devices Cell phones, iPads, game boxes, social media, tablets, computers— take a moment to seriously reflect on the implications of the time spent on those...
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